John 5:30 (KJV) I can of mine own self do nothing: as I hear, I judge: and my judgment is just; because I seek not mine own will, but the will of the Father which hath sent me.
We need to include others in our process of personal expansion.
Many of you reading today’s message pride yourselves on being in control and handling things yourself.
I urge you today to expand your thoughts and include others in your process. The notion of exchange is a powerful life lesson.
Many of us will not grow, because we don’t want to get in a position where we need others more than they need us.
Let’s examine this for a minute, especially at this time of COVID-19
We can bring these same attitudes into our significant relationships as well: like our marriages and families.
We can keep our thoughts and feelings well hidden from others because of the feeling we are self-sufficient.
I felt compelled to mention to you that those close to you may not know you this way because you are limited in sharing from your heart (Spouse, children, significant others).
The power exchange relationship is a relational dynamic when a partner decides to either give up or get control of the authority.
An alternate perspective says a power exchange can be effective, or more so, with someone outside your general daily life.
In the second circumstance, some may feel less reserved about giving up their power. It is a matter of preference and your personal end game for expansion in your life.
However, when you decide to include others in your life, do it in a way that includes personal expansion for yourself and others. This results in a win end game for all involved.
We must learn the extraordinary value of having the right types of relationships in our lives.
In addition, you will never experience any close friends functioning this way unless there is intentionality.
Many of us learn this in our upbringing that it’s not a strong character to need anyone.
And by spending time on our personal career’s and other interest rather than healthy quality time with our families, and significant others, I believe we open the door to diminish our greatest value.
In fact, we can live our lives feeling that we must face life without any help. I just wanted to tell someone reading today’s message; it’s okay to be needed by others, and it’s also ok for you to need others in your life.
Your choice for self-sufficiency and distance are depriving you of your basic needs for love, relationship, and intimacy. You were made to need and be needed (Galatians 6:2 NKJV).
The greatest benefit that relationships with power exchanges have is that no one is left wondering whose turn it is to lead.
I rarely have heard of a fight directly related to roles, in a power exchange relationship it’s all about bringing the best out in each other.
Another benefit to power exchange relationships is that it can help enhance a relationship because the parties would work in a cooperative manner.
It’s always better when we as a family, workforce, church, and community work together.
Your family, friends, and colleagues will do whatever is required of them to perform their roles for the betterment and enhancement of each other.
Quote – “Knowledge is horizontal. But wisdom is vertical. It comes down from above. You will grow in wisdom as you learn, reflect and live in a relationship with God and others –James Baker, Jr. (Proverbs 8:12-21).
Point to ponder:
- Are you living a self-sufficient life?
- How are you interacting with those closest to you?
- Do you have anyone in your life that you can share your heart with?
- When will you be ready for the needed authentic relationship?
- Where are you in your personal life expansion process?
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