I Samuel 16:18(KJV) Then one of the servants answered and said, “Look, I have seen a son of Jesse the Bethlehemite, who is skillful in playing, a mighty man of valor, a man of war, prudent in speech, and a handsome person; and the Lord is with him.”
It’s time to learn the inside and outside discussion practices.
When we are younger, we think we know a lot more than we do. And a lot of times we just say things at inappropriate times.
But as we get older, hopefully, we learn to measure our words. We learn not to always say what we are thinking at times that are inappropriate.
We learn there are inside thoughts and outside thoughts. (Some people don’t get this information –ever in their lives.)
On this challenging journey called life, you can pretty much guarantee that you’ll experience feelings that relate to other people.
And sometimes, it is going to feel important to be able to express your feelings with those people in ways that feel good.
But, what do you do if other people feel upset by your feelings? Or worse, criticize you, shame or manipulate you, or use your feelings against you?
We can use some guidance on how to navigate the challenge of the inside and outside discussion.
We must learn the emotional intelligence of being prudent in our speaking.
It is a good thing to be known as someone who is prudent in speech. That is how David was described, which is a little unusual for a younger man.
In (I Samuel 16:18) we read, “Then one of the servants answered and said, ‘Look, I have seen a son of Jesse the Bethlehemite, who is skillful in playing, a mighty man of valor, a man of war, prudent in speech, and a handsome person; and the Lord is with him” (emphasis added).
Interestingly, “prudent in speech” means weighing things in the mind and forming a judgment.
It is thinking about what you say before you say it. Learning this life lesson is imperative for your destiny.
When Jesus was transfigured, Moses and Elijah appeared, talking with Him. Peter, who was there with James and John, blurted out, “Rabbi, it is good for us to be here; and let us make three tabernacles: one for You, one for Moses, and one for Elijah” (Mark 9:5).
The next verse gives us this insight: “He did not know what to say, for they were greatly afraid” (verse 6). Today’s message is the transformational family of God.
But, if you are anything like me, you also know that keeping your feelings all closed inside and not communicating with the people you love is a for emotional disaster.
In my own personal experience, the biggest heartaches and misunderstandings in my relationships have come when I have tried to communicate my emotions before I really understood them.
Point to ponder
Have you ever said something when you didn’t know what to say, and you ended up saying something at the wrong time?
Today you can begin to make the change necessary to heal this area in your life no matter how old you may be! Have a great day being emotionally intelligent in when to speak.
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