Genesis 2:18(NKJV) And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
Most of the problems we get into in marriage can be traced to our neglect of reading and obeying God’s instructions. We operate in marraige independent of the Lord and wonder why we have falty and dysfunctional marriages. What’s your view of marriage? What model of marriage did you see growing up?
Early in Genesis we find God’s design for marriage (Gen. 2:18-25). This text describing the original marriage is the basis for almost everything else the Bible says about marriage. It explains God’s reason for designing marriage and also gives us many principles which, if applied, will enable us to build marriages which honor God and bring lasting joy to us. The text teaches us that:
God primary design marriage to meet our need for companionship and to provide an illustration of our relationship with the Lord.
The name used for God, translated “LORD [Yahweh] God” (2:18, 19, 21, 22) emphasizes His covenant relationship with His people. Genesis 1 refers to God as “Elohim,” emphasizing His power as the Creator. Genesis 2 refers to Him as the LORD God, showing that the powerful Creator is also the personal God who cares for His creatures. This caring, personal God knew that the man He created had a need, and so the Lord took action to meet that need.
God designed marriage to meet the human need for companionship. When you read Genesis 1&;2 amplified version, the words of 2:18 hit abruptly: “It is not good for the man to be alone.” Throughout chapter one, God surveys His work and pronounces it good (1:10, 12, 18, 21, 25, 31). This is the first time God says that something in His creation is not good: “It is not good for the man to be alone.”
Think about it: Here’s a sinless man, in perfect fellowship with God, in a perfect environment. What more could you want? Isn’t that enough? Not according to God! God’s evaluation was that the man needed a human companion to correspond to him. Read it for yourself it was good who said and God’s idea “It’s not good for man to be alone”!
Sometimes super-spiritual people say that if you are lonely, there must be something wrong with your spiritual life. But God acknowledges our need not only for fellowship with Him, but also with a life partner. This is not to say that every person needs to be married. Everyone spends many years of life as a single person. God has called some to remain single (1 Cor. 7:7-9). Nor is it to say that marriage will meet all our needs for companionship. Just some thoughts about God design of marriage.
Love and Honor,
Pastor James Baker, Jr.