Genesis 2:23 (NKJV) And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
In marriage “Humility” is essential to create and maintain unity with your spouse (James 4:10). It requires a mind-set that honors your partner. You are now dealing with the personal convictions of two people. It’s something you must quickly learn to deal with.
So, what’s riding on this? Quite a lot, namely, oneness and intimacy. If you learn the art of servant-leadership, the journey will be much smoother. However, many married couples will not submit to the oneness principle of God in today’s reading (Genesis 2:23-24). If you are married today, why did you get married? and what are you doing to make your marriage a reflection of God? The answers to these questions will tell you why your marriage is where it is!
Yes, you may have a compliant spouse who’ll tolerate your less than humble ways. But in such cases, outer calmness is usually the result of an inner deadness in the marital relationship, not oneness and intimacy. Many marriages suffer from what I call “The Disconnected syndrome”. Marriage is not way out of your situation or insuring you live a certain lifestyle. Marriage is real work and committment; what are you committed to?
Without a humble spirit and a willingness to serve one another, you may have peace, you may have marital longevity, and you may even appear to have a marriage made in heaven. But you won’t have a relationship based on intimacy, there will be a journey of chaos and wounded people, if not casualties, along the way. Do you have intimacy in your marriage? what does intimacy mean to you?
I can’t urge you enough in your marriage to commit yourselves to a life of humbly serving your spouse it’s the journey towards unity and oneness. This message is for married couples, engaged to be married, and those who the Lord is preparing for marriage, even those who are living together and refuse to commit marriage! Marriage is God’s institution, love you all.
Point to ponder- We have enough dead marriages and hurt people. What are you going to do about it Mr. and Mrs.?
All for His Kingdom,
Pastor James Baker, Jr.