Titus 1:8 (NIV) Rather, he must be hospitable, one who loves what is good, who is self-controlled, upright, holy and disciplined.
What are some of the areas of life in which we need to have self-control? Let me select what I consider to be a few very important. The first is the area of sex. Controlled sex is creative; uncontrolled sex is chaotic. I need hardly say that sex outside of marriage is clearly forbidden by Scripture and those who engage in it will find it leads not to fulfillment but to disintegration (breakdown) of the personality(Hebrews 13:4). That disintegration may not come right away, but given time it will surely come.
Within the marriage relationship also there is need for self-control. If one’s partner becomes the means of self-gratification, instead of a person to be loved and respected, then again, disintegration sets in. You cannot use another without abusing yourself. Your attitudes toward another become your attitudes toward yourself. If you use another for sex purposes, then sex uses you. Sex is a dedication or it is a desecration (violation), and when it becomes desecration, it becomes degradation (disgrace).
The Holy Spirit, if we let Him (John 14:15-17) comes to our aid to help us be sure that the way we live is honorable to our God.